The Meaning Value of Self Acceptance

Enhancing our skills and habits sounds like a good idea. However in fact, if we keep asking ourselves what we should keep asking ourselves what we should do or we should keep doing it, it may have a negative impact on us. Ussually, our inner critics think that we are not good enough and we will not accept ourselves as we do now. This may be a problem, because one of the most important factors for happiness and satisfaction in life is self-acceptance.

What exactly is self-acceptance ?

Self-acceptance is :

Be aware of your strengths and weakness
Realistic assessment of your talents
Abilities and value
Despite being flawed and ignoring past choices, but satisfied with one's self

What a benefit of self-acceptance ?

The mood is more awake.
Decreased symptoms of depression, desire to always be approved by others, easy to give up, and self-criticism.
Increased more positive emotions and a sense of self-independence.

How to practice self-acceptance ?

1. Become self-aware and set an intention

Identify the thoughts, feelings, and pain you have, welcome them, and separate yourself from them. Then make a decision that you are willing to accept yourself in all aspects.

2. Celebrate your strengths

Accept your weakness. Thinking about strengths, try to ask yourself:

What trait has always earned you praise?
What field of work are you good at?
What talents do you have?

Making a rundown of your qualities and past accomplishments and re-perusing them when you are having an off second is an extraordinary method to rehearse self-acceptance. If you want to add, instead of focusing on failure or error, try these negative thoughts are replaced with positive thoughts about when you achieve something.

3. Think about individuals around you

In perceiving positive and negative support, and exercising your feelings as a common human being, for example, through loving kindness meditation.

4. Build a support system

Surround yourself with people who accept you and believe in you - and avoid those who don't. Indeed, quality relationships are the key to happiness and self-acceptance. Be grateful for the support system that is always around you at the most difficult times; those at the tops and troughs. There are so many people in life who want you to be at your best, but very few who will actually support you in your worst circumstances. Never forget to appreciate those rare people whose loyalty never falters.

5. Learn to forgive yourself

Sometimes to noticed yourself, is that one of the hardest things to do is to forgive yourself. And how can you except to grow and develop if you can not forgive yourself and go on with your life? How to be happy and positive if there is something in you that is not giving you a peace of mind.

Everyone makes mistakes, but why do we forget that when we are the "sinners"?. When is the last time when you have forgiven someone or didn't even judge him ?

Why it is so much easier to forgive others ?

Why it is so much easier to forgive others, but not yourself? You don't have assumptions from others, however you do have from yourself. You hope to be great, to satisfy others, to be a decent individual and so on.

How to forgive yourself ?

If the first step toward change is awareness, we first need to admit to ourselves that we made a mistake. Then the second is acceptance. And did you accept if you didn't forgive yourself? No! Acceptance is forgiveness. Try to appreciate those missteps for what they actually are: a stepping stone on your life path. Also, remind yourself that mistakes and failures are part of being human. In fact, it’s how we learn and grow.

6. Understand that acceptance is not resignation

Acceptance doesn't mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that there's got to be a way through it. Then you must focus on what you can control, and empower yourself further.

7. Calm your inner self

If you want peace of mind, stop fighting with your thoughts and compare your life with others. Peace it doesn't mean to be in place where there is not noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the mindst of those things and still be calm in your heart. Like Remes Sasson said

Learn to calm down the winds of your mind, and you will enjoy great inner peace.

8. Grieve over the loss of dreams that have not yet been fulfilled

Maybe you found yourself in a job you didn't like, an area you never wanted to, or single when you always dreamed of settling down with your partner. Either way, we often wonder what dreams are worth holding onto and whether, in fact, it's time to let them go.

And when it's time to let go, it's not always easy. For some of these plans, letting go can lead to freedom. But for other dreams that don't come true, there may be deep sadness. Whatever your situation, realize that letting go of dreams that don't come true doesn't stop you from dreaming up new situations and aspirations for your future!

Grief is a calculation of how far someone can travel away from us when we blink. Sadness never ends. But that's changing. It was a hallway, not a residence. Grief is not a sign of weakness or a lack of faith. That is the price of love.

9. Doing acts of charity

The power of using kindness for growth.

Have you ever thought of what it means to use kindness for growth and what power that creates in our lives?

I never thought of how kindness can be powerful personal growth strategy for us as individuals or as communities and nations. However then I remember to Jacinda Ardern, the prime minister of New Zealand, speaking at the United Nations. In her inspirational address, she spoke of how New Zealand uses kindness as a way of being to help progress the country.

Ardern, Jacinda. "Prime Minister Addresses General Debate, 73rd Session" YouTube, uploaded by United Nations, 28 Sep 2018, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HiobwkovZWw. Accessed 27 May 2021.

I am so agree with that idea, and I think if we all use kindness more regularly in our daily lives, the world will change. Maybe is not to impact things on a global scale, but it is possible to create changes where we live.

Sometimes acts of kindness seem small and insignificant. Our acts of kindness may go unrecognised and perhaps unacknowledged. However, this does not make it irrelevant or not potentially life-changing for ourselves and others. The benefits of kindness are scientifically proven and both mental and physical.

Kindness is a virtue that doesn't need recognition, our egos do, and when we deflate the ego, kindness can illuminate from wthin.

First step is stop and think about our lives would be if we used kindness as personal growth strategy each day ?

Many people say that they would like to be more kind, and here's the exciting the news. The more you create and pratice a mindset around kindness, and the more you act upon your mindset, the more kindness is perpetuated wthin and towards others.

To act with kindness is never an irregular demonstration; nor is it accidental. Kindness always flows from consciousness of self and compassion of others. If we want to experience personal growth through kindness and create more success in our lives, then we need to challenge ourselves and reflect deeply on how we can be more kind.

10. Talk to yourself

It's not selfish to love yourself, take care yourself and make your happiness a priority. It's necessity ~ Mandy Hale.

11. Be kind to yourself

Be kind to yourself when you need a pep-talk,

Remember

You can improve the way you feel right now. You know what you need to do. You can go from wanting to veg out and vanish from life to feeling better with a small action. Get up and move your body. Even when it feels hard and pointless. Create space for silence. Let go of all the shoulds you are teeling yourself. One action can change your mood.

12. Believe in yourself

Use positive self-talk and practice PERT: Positive Emotion Refocusing Technique when times are tough. The path to self-acceptance can be rough and bumpy. There will be times that current external circumstances, past experiences, and our programming make it hard or impossible to accept ourselves.

If this happens, there's no shame in seeking help – from a loved one or a professional – when things get too hard. In the end, the greatest gift you can give yourself is self-acceptance. In the words of psychologist Tara Brach: “Imperfection is not our personal problem – it is a natural part of existing. The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary to our freedom.”

By learning how to practice self-acceptance and self-love, we can learn to live with our imperfections and be truly free and happy.